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The Feminine Mistake
Tuesday, April 03, 2007

I was going to write about Leslie Bennett's appearance on the Today show this morning, but realized I don't have much to offer in the way of a thoughtful critique. I haven't yet read Bennett's new book The Feminine Mistake—and I'm not sure I will—purely due to a lack of time, not interest.

Bennett looked like none other than Cruella DeVille herself this morning, seated opposite a concerned Anne Curry who kept repeating, "But what about the women who can't possibly leave their children?" As Bennett hammered home her key point—that women who give up their careers altogether to raise children are putting their financial future in jeopardy—Curry, a working mom herself, looked as if she was going to cry. This, I believe, was for all the moms at home watching Today while wiping oatmeal from their baby's lips.

Bennett actually offered some alarming statistics during her interview. More concrete data than I have heard in quite some time. But we all know the big one: 50% of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. That's not something we can deny. Maybe the husband wants out. Maybe it's the wife. But without her own paycheck, mom has few easy options. As caregivers we plan for rainy days. We pack extra diapers and wipes. Send the kids to school or camp with a change of clothes. We expect the unexpected. Why is it then, that we do not apply the same thinking to our own lives? Where's the insurance policy for moms who choose to sacrifice self for sake of family?

If you can't or won't read the book, at least read Bennett's analysis of the media coverage on The Huffington Post. It's fascinating stuff and shines a light on why we're fed the stories we are for breakfast.

by Erin * Comments (1) * Link to this entry


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I felt a weird sense of panic when I had my second child and was at the time completely out of the workforce - I had the unsettling feeling of "what would happen to me if I had to go back to work in 10 years" thus I'm happy to have started my own business where I can juggle home, family, and work under the same roof - (even though it comes with it's own set of issues). Having said that - is there room left for the optimist in the world? Should women run their lives around the what if? Should they trade what is most important to them at that stage in their life for the "possibility" of something in the future"? I'm definitely more at peace with my marketabilitly if I should have to re-enter the traditional work force because of my little ventures, but I started my business not for security for the "what if's" but for self fulfillment -- If I went to work for the "what if" it wouldn't be worth it.

Posted by: Rachael Herrscher [TypeKey Profile Page] | April 21, 2007 07:40 PM

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