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Hello Erin and Kristin! I just had to comment about the stuff I hate about being a mom. Most of it I do love, however there are a few things that I just can't stand. Number one is the vomit! Good lord why do kids puke so much? Second would be whiny children. Last, the slight loss of my identity. Well, that's it. Thanks!

Posted by: Amanda | May 6, 2008 10:09 AM

My daughter is now 6, so life's gotten alot easier. The thing I hate about motherhood is the loss of dignity. I lost my dignity in the birthing room. I still have no dignity for having privacy to go to the restroom! I swear an alarm goes off!
Two weeks ago, I was doing some "paperwork" while my daughter was getting ready for soccer. She was filling up a water bottle and started coughing on the water. I could hear her coughing and I yelled "CC, are you okay?". Cough...no response...quiet. I must have yelled two more times and panic set in. What if she's choking?? What does it take - 2 tablespoons of water to drown. Us moms do go overboard.
Well, I get up from the potty and wiggle to the door way to open it and yell to see if she's okay. "What?" she replies. Okay, so she's fine. I shut the door and turn to wiggle back to finish up. And to my horror, there is the smallest little "dropping" on the floor.
Ahh!!!!! Did I mention I hate the loss of dignity?!?!?

Posted by: bloses3 | May 6, 2008 10:25 AM

I hate that when my husband has a toothache, I am the one who has to call the dentist to make him an appointment. I am the one who has to fish his dental insurance card out of his own wallet when he says he can't find it. I am the one who has to call the insurance company to confirm our dentist is covered. I am the one who has to call my husband to make sure he wakes up in time for his appointment. I am the one who has to call the dental surgeon he got refered to in order to make an appointment. I am the one who has to call the first dentist to fax the referral over to the surgeon. I am the one who AGAIN has to call my husband to wake him up for his appointment. And since he's most likely going to have his wisdom teeth extracted this week, I am going to be the one driving him to and from the appointment, picking up his pain prescriptions, catering to his every whim for ice cream for the next week or so, and all the while being sole care provider for our one year old.

I already have one nearly helpless baby in the family - do I really need another?

Posted by: jyarter | May 6, 2008 10:30 AM

I hate that I am the one my kids want when they need to puke.

I hate that I am the one who has to get covered in bruises from their tantrums when they are two.

I hate that my husband gets to come home every day (I am a SAHM) and be a darn superhero (yet he can't pack a diaper bag to save his life).

I hate that I feel guilty when I go somewhere without them. Aren't I supposed to take care of myself too?

I hate that I don't get much credit or recognition for making the house run smoothly, especially when there are guests.
I hate that my husband knows nothing about what size clothes they wear, what size shoes they wear, and whether or not they will eat grilled cheese.

I hate that even my two year old can quote movies, but they cannot remember to put their dirty clothes in the hamper every day.

I hate that I know there is more I hate about being a mom, but I think I need to say, I love being their mom. I love their intense personalities, I love that one looks just like me and the other just like my husband, and I love that they love each other. Hey, if they do, at least for now, doesn't that mean I am doing something right?

Posted by: KbRadcliffe | May 6, 2008 11:02 AM

I hate when moms lie about how much tv their kids watch, junk food their kids eat, skills their children have, etc.. We should own up to our dirty little survival secrets in order to stop the judgement of one another!

Posted by: Nagdemom | May 6, 2008 11:09 AM

What do I hate? Aside from other people thinking they know my children better than I do? But this is supposed to be about stuff, right?

- infant T-shirts without shoulder snaps. Clearly the designers never tried actually dressing a floppy baby with a big head.
- the ten bazillion ties and twisties that hold toys to their packaging with an iron-clad death grip
- good-for-you whole wheat pasta that tastes like soggy cardboard
- racy, skimpy clothes for little girls. Are you kidding me?

I know there's more, but that's a good sample from my list.

Katie

Posted by: krbonner | May 6, 2008 11:09 AM

This is gross, but here goes...I think one of the things that I've hated the most about motherhood is having to change a tampon in my car with one year old twins in their car seats because it was impossible to get a double stroller into a public restroom. And then a month later not knowing what the horrbile deathly smell was in my car, until I found, you guessed it, the old tampon wrapped up in several hundred tissues in the pocket of the car door!

Posted by: osmp | May 6, 2008 02:59 PM

Okay, here is something new that I hate...Since my son started kindergarten he has a new obsession with this stupid toy called a Tamagotchi. Since my son is at school all day and they do not allow outside toys, I have to babysit this stupid thing. It is really humiliating to have your peers see you "playing" with this thing or "feeding" it to keep it from crying out. My husband took it to work one day (my day off) only to have his new boss come into his cube while he was playing some game with the Tamagotchi. When he saw his boss, he promptly hid it under his desk while it was beeping away in protest. I cannot imagine what his boss thought!

Posted by: Karma | May 6, 2008 09:58 PM

I hate the "my kid's better than yours" discussions of moms and the constant kid comparison. Let the kids grow up and be kids without being pushed, and let the parents parent with fault. That's why we are human!

Posted by: Erica | May 7, 2008 08:22 AM

I hate moms who won't admit that it's difficult being a mom! If I meet a mom and she can't admit that she has any problems - if everything is perfect, her kids are perfect, her husband perfect, her kids well-disciplined, eat healthy, etc. etc. - I know that she will never be a good friend.

Posted by: adenacb | May 7, 2008 10:32 AM

I hate having to deal with acrises when I am alone with the kids. It seems to be the theme this year.

When my son was three weeks old, my husband got in a bike crash, broke his hand and had to have surgery. I got a sitter for my 3 year old and brought my breast-fed newborn to the hospital.

Then there was the flood in the basement. How do you bale water,move boxes and watch 2 kids?

How do you care for two kids when you are home alone with the flu?

And this week, my favorite...
working, packing for an impending move and Horror of Horrors... I find LICE.

Sometimes there just isn't enough of me to go around. My husband work in an ER so he can't just come home from work.

I think we need Mom Scout badges for all the crazy things we have to overcome.

The good part of being a mom is perspective. At the end of the day if my family is happy, healthy and safe, I'm ok.

Posted by: emmawang | May 7, 2008 12:27 PM

I hate that my husband didn't tell me that it would be MY sole responsibility to find babysitters. I also loathe the "psudo perfect mom"....the one who tells me that "her" kids aren't allowed to do "this" and "that"......Her kids should stay at HER house then. Was that mean of me??

Posted by: radiomom | May 7, 2008 01:27 PM

- I hate feeling guilty about asking for a day or night "off" to do things for myself - get a pedicure, shop for clothes, have dinner with friends. Even though my husband is great about it, I always feel like I am not doing my share.

- I hate that I let myself gain 55 lbs while pregnant and that it took me 2.5 years to go to Weight Watchers to lose the last 40! I miss my post pregnancy body, and am really looking forward to having it back (only 20 more lbs to go)!!!

- I hate potty training!

- I hate it when my son doesn't listen, whines and that sometimes, it makes me lose my cool. I hate getting upset with him when I have so few precious hours to spend with him each day (I am a working mom).

- I hate that I am so tired at the end of each day that all I can do is flop onto the couch and watch a bit of TV at night before falling asleep with my contact lenses still in my eyes.

Note: I still wouldn't trade it for the world... :)

Posted by: Kristie | May 7, 2008 02:43 PM

I hate wanting to be at work when I'm home and wanting to be at home when I'm working.

I hate how my husband spends so much time in the locked bathroom.

I hate how he thinks going shopping is fun/free time for me. Getting groceries and toilet paper (see hate #2) is not a night out or equal to him playing softball every Tuesday!

Posted by: Laura | May 7, 2008 04:36 PM

1. All things Polly Pocket and other miniscule vacuum food.

2. Play-Dough. Evil...that's all I can say about that stuff.

3. C-sections.

4. Making dinner...always hate it...and I'm a WAHM...not even a full-time WAHM at that...but it still sucks.

5. Laundry! OMG - it is absolutely impossible to get through it. Specifically...gathering, carrying, folding and putting away...the dump it in the machine part and the move it to the dryer part? I'm ok w/that.

6. Candy and other crap on each side of the grocery cart at the checkout. Especially if the kids are in the roto-virus infested school bus cart or the fire truck cart....you can't even reach them to grab the candy away from them! Evil marketing I say.

7. I hate that parking for expectant or new mothers has to end. And technically 7 months is still "new" right? (wink, wink)

8. And finally (not really - I COULD go on)...I hate public tantrums (from my kids that is). Is there anything that makes you feel like a crappy mom than when your 2 or 3 yr old just throws a big loud hissy fit like an absolute total brat that you are SURE you are not raising to behave like that...especially in public. Ugh - HATE that.

Thanks for the venting opp! =-)

Posted by: jodiw | May 7, 2008 06:33 PM

Ok, what I loved was the fact that my small B cups swelled to pretty good D cups with the birth of my daughter.

What I hate is that they shrank back (which I knew would happen).

What I didn't know is that they would shrink back to be TWO different cup sizes! I know that the girls aren't exactly the same but normally you can't tell unless you're looking at them naked.

Good grief!

Posted by: Annette K | May 8, 2008 08:16 AM

I hate the start of each new season, when all of my single and/or childless coworkers come to work wearing the latest new fashions, shoes, handbags, etc - because they have both the time and the money to splurge on themselves.

When I think about the last time I bought myself new clothes, it was only because I was too fat to fit into my pre-baby fashions from the season before.

(although, I will say that I love buying new clothes for my little guy!)

Posted by: JoesMom | May 8, 2008 11:42 AM

I hate moms who make like they are martyrs for their children. Give me a break, I work just as hard as your sorry butt, I just don’t whine about it!

I hate seeing children in public with only a diaper on or only a diaper and t-shirt. I hate seeing kids in public with snot running down their face.

I hate projectile vomit and explosive diarrhea.

I hate people who leave their dirty diapers in the parking lot.

I hate when people don’t prepare for emergencies with their kids – i.e. no extra diapers, bottle, wipes, etc. and rely on others to give them extra (read – my sister-in-law)

I hate people who give you something or help you in some way and expect you to thank them for the rest of your life.

I hate that toy manufactures make multiple versions of the same toy – i.e. multiple optimus prime transformers.

I hate the toys that come with kids meals – most are stupid pieces of plastic that get played with only once

Posted by: HawaiiMom | May 8, 2008 03:34 PM

It's probably a little late for this, but I'm about 5 days behind in my life so here we go!

I HATE toy packaging!!!!! The frickin' garbage usually weighs more than the toy. Did you ever expect to need a SCREWDRIVER to get a Diego Jeep out of a box?? ANd it is really fun to try to explain to the crying two year-old that the toy company is concerned with theft and how the product displayed and that is why I CAN'T GET THE GD PLASTIC TOY OUT OF THE GD BOX!!!!

I hate hate hate when my kids are sick and I feel like I am choosing between my kids and 20 other people's kids (my job.) And more than that, I hate when my daycare provider watches my healthy other son like a hawk for any sign of anything and calls us from work to pick him up when HE'S NOT EVEN SICK!!!! Grrr!

I hate when my kids act like themselves (OK when they act like nutbag aliens) in public or around friends and family and I get embarrassed by it. I hate that it bothers me when they are weird. Why don't I just chalk it up to crazy little kid behavior? I love these kids ten million times more than the people I'm around. Why does it bother me?

Posted by: jessi | May 11, 2008 01:18 AM

Oh yeah, and like many other moms, I HATE the competitive mom crap. but more than that, I hate the competitive mom who thinks she's NOT a competitive mom, yet criticizes other kids, parents, nieces & nephews as they pale in comparison to her children. Yuck!

Plus I hate that there are typos in my previous post!

Posted by: jessi | May 11, 2008 01:26 AM

I hate that noone in my house can find ANYTHING. My kids can't ever find their shoes, or specific toys or book, and my husband can never find his belt & wallet. And they're always in the most obvious places. I'm sick of searching for other peoples stuff!

Posted by: sublimejen | May 13, 2008 08:23 AM