My husband and I have intimacy issues - specifically, our kids prevent us from ever getting intimate!

This is totally our fault because we have done a terrible job of establishing clear boundaries between family spaces and parental spaces. In fact, we've practically encouraged the kids to consider our room as their room – allowing them to sleep in our bed, dress in our bathroom and watch their shows on our TV.

But that ends this week because we're kicking the kids out of our bed and reclaiming our space.

First, I've put a stop to the kids' pre-bed ritual of watching television in mommy and daddy's bed, and forced everyone back downstairs.

Second, the kids will bathe in their own bathroom and change in their own bedrooms.

Third, I've moved the gate that used to keep Sophie IN her room to our doorway to keep the kids OUT of our room in the middle of the night.

And finally, just in case we're tempted to slip back into our "old ways" I'm taking the fairly radical stop of removing all the kids programming from the TiVo in our bedroom and loading it up with programs for the parents. Dora and Diego have been replaced by Michael and Fiona; Jack and Mary by Shawn and Juliet; Lenny, Tuck and Ming Ming (too) for Brenda, Grace and PJ. (Did I mention I control the TiVo?)

And now, I'm sitting in my "new" room and I already feel more "relaxed."

Now where is my husband??